Dear Christian Counselor:
I know that we are supposed to try and be like Jesus every day. But we are never going to be perfect until he comes back. So what happens if you have been hurting for years inside and out and you have no fight left in yourself anymore and you take your own life? Would you still go to heaven?
Tired of the Fight
If someone asked me whether they should have an affair or abort an unwanted child, I wouldn’t mess around with theology and what might happen afterward. I’m not going to do that with your question either. You are asking me whether serious and deliberate sin could be a good choice. It can’t. The choices God endorses lead to life and hope and peace. I know there are times when that doesn’t feel true, but that’s where faith comes in. God has already given His only Son in exchange for you. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body. 1 Cor. 6:19-20 You are not your own to destroy. The One who cared enough to purchase your life also cares enough to help you.
There are many things you can also do to help yourself through the kind of depression which births questions like yours. Counseling and medication are two options to consider. Here is a list of practical things you can do, as well: Helps for Depression. An article in the New England Journal of Medicine reported that, “more than 90% of people who survive a suicide attempt, including attempts that were expected to be lethal … do not go on to die by suicide.” What this means is that you will not always feel this way. If I had trusted my own dark thoughts rather than the truth of Scripture and the love of God, I would not have lived to find the light and purpose God had in store for me. Don’t give up. Lean hard on the Lord’s strength rather than your own. It does take work, but you can find healing, too. That’s God’s plan for you – not self-murder.
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jer. 29:11.
If you are having suicidal thoughts, tell someone (a spouse, a friend, a pastor, a counselor). If there’s no one you can tell, contact one of these resources: